Funny story about helping others: As I boarded the plane for my flight, I reached up to stow my bag in the overhead compartment. And before I knew it, the lady next to me was shooting me a concerned looked followed by, “Well, I was going to put MY bag there!”
The look on her face said I was 5 seconds from getting told off for stealing “her space.”
In true Kandice fashion, I gave her the most polite smile I could pull from within. Next, I carefully scooted a few bags over, rearranging the space to make more than enough room for BOTH of our bags.
You see, there is always room at the top for all of us, but what effort are we willing to take to help others get there?
It would’ve been easy to say, “Tough luck, lady! I got here first!” But I didn’t. That approach only helps one of us. Isn’t it cool when we can not only take pride in pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps, but also take pride in having the strength to help pull up another person too?
So often, I hear women discuss how someone else is trying to take their spot.
If you think about it, I am sure you can name at least two times that you’ve heard someone say, “Oh, she wasn’t even thinking to do that until she saw me do it” or the ever sarcastic, “Imitation is the best form of flattery” line. Maybe you’re not the girl I just described, but you are someone who “just doesn’t have the time to help.”
News flash! What is for you will not pass you by just because someone else is looking to grow in a similar manner.
Consider this. No person can take a spot destined for you. In fact, by helping others, we actually solidify all the reasons we belong on top.
In law school, I LOVED teaching concepts to law buddies who didn’t quite catch it in class.
Some people thought to themselves, “Law school is competitive. I’m not going to help someone else get a higher ranking than me by giving them my insight.”
In my mind, I never cared. My philosophy was that if I knew it, I knew it. I was confident in the fact that I could maintain my ranking even if I shared what I knew with others.
Amazingly, the more I taught what I knew to others, the more I became an expert in the subject matter. Teaching my friends was actually elevating me and increasing my own knowledge. Every time I said a concept or scribbled it on the white board, I was catching new nuances that I hadn’t thought of before.
Essentially, by making others better, I became better.
In the end, positive input yielded positive output for me, and I guarantee the same affect for anyone willing to try it out.
In case I haven’t already convinced you, here is a quick breakdown of how helping others will solidify your spot on top.
Helping others grooms you to be expert
The more you teach it, the more you know it, and the more you can grow it.
That “it” can be anything from your own personal brand to parenting. Take advantage of the opportunity to grow yourself by helping others. Giving is actually elevating you.
Blessing others begets more blessings to you
I have never blessed someone and not got it back in more ways than I could imagine. There is something amazing about being a blessing. It has the ability to impact you mentally, physically, and financially.
Scratching someone else’s back sets them up to scratch your back in the future
When we help others they are likely to help us. Although we may not be able to see how the person we are helping can be an immediate benefit to us, we are building a network and a reputation.
By doing even a small favor for others, a mental note is taken. The person you helped will remember you first when their prominent uncle is looking for legal counsel or when they meet someone who can serve as a benefit to you in some way.
Likewise, being stingy has an adverse affect.
Helping others can translate into a profitable income stream
When you buy into the importance of helping others and do so passionately, the word spreads. From there, you can eventually market yourself as a go-to for a particular niche.
Just think! Oprah makes billions by inspiring us. Steve Harvey developed a best-seller by giving us relationship advice. MoKnows Hair is a well-known beauty influencer who started off by deciding to share her knowledge about natural hair.
When you do good, you feel good.
Think back to the last time you did a good deed. How did you feel afterward?
Most of us feel great when we go the extra mile for someone else. We are proud of ourselves for doing the right thing, and that pride spills over into a positive attitude that makes our day go better.
Everyone likes to feel good about themselves. Imagine if you could accomplish this feeling by doing one small thing every day that boosts someone else closer to the top.
Whether by self-fulfillment or brand expansion, our active decision to help others will always push us to higher heights.
We are always better together, and we will always grow when we sow.
Push yourself to push others. Consistently ask yourself, “Who can I help be better today?” Investing time in someone else will never fail to yield a high return to you in some way.