It’s easy to be positive when everything is going our way – a pleasure even. But we’re really put to the test in moments when our eyes are so clouded by tears that we can’t see the vision.
About a month ago, I got the news that I was not selected for a promotion that I thought was the perfect fit for my skill set and experience. The positive Patty in me said, “If not this, something better,” going on about my way.
Until this week when I was asked to train the new hire who got the position * major gasp*
I was flooded with all sorts of emotions. It hurt that I wasn’t selected for the job itself but was responsible for getting the new girl up to speed. I kept replaying all the reasons why this situation was unfair.
Not getting the job was one thing, but this part was like pouring salt on a wound.
For the first two days of the week, I did my best to train with a smile. I kept reminding myself that discipline was about doing the things that don’t feel good with a positive attitude.
Seeing the Positive
There were moments throughout those first two days when I felt disappointed and overlooked, but as day 3 came around, it hit me that none of those emotions would change the current outcome.
I realized that I don’t have control of what happens to me, but I do have complete control over how I respond to it.
On day three, I gave myself an opportunity to literally cry about it. Next, I wrote down ten reasons to be thankful and excited to train the new hire. Writing this list flowed much easier than I would’ve imagined.
The positive was there, I just had to WANT to see it.
When things don’t go our way, we often feel so justified in our feelings that we don’t want to abandon them for a positive outlook. It feels like taking on positivity disregards all the reasons we are entitled to be sad, disappointed, or angry. But ultimately, taking a positive approach is what helps us stay resilient. Holding on to the weight of the bad stuff will eventually break us if we never decide to let it go.
Life will never be smooth. Setbacks are a part of the journey. Throughout it, we should learn to maintain an eternal peace. Everything that is meant for us will always find its way.
I felt possessive over a job position that was never mine to have.
I bet that in the months to follow, God will reveal His greater purpose for all of this. In the meantime, I plan to do my best and let go of the rest. I’m resilient and thriving right where I am – the perfect recipe for unexpected blessings.