As my best friend, Zuri, boarded the shuttle for her flight back home, I couldn’t stop crying. And in fact, I’m still crying even as I write this post.
The simple truth is that we often take for granted life’s greatest blessings until they are no longer readily available to us. Or at least I did.
I’ve always been blessed with an amazing sisterhood of friends that enhanced my life for the better. In fact, I can’t remember a time when God put me in a place where I didn’t find a connection that made me a better human being.
Even as a law school implant in South Louisiana, I connected with the most amazing group of women. They gave me some of the best law school memories a girl could ever hope to reminisce on during those “remember when” convos that make you laugh until your stomach hurts.
But this time the transition to a new city is different. Maybe it’s because I am 30, or married, or work remotely. Whatever the reason, this twilight zone has been an interesting one for a social butterfly such as myself.
When you spend your entire life surrounded by amazing friends, you tend to take for granted the genuine connection you’ve formed with loved ones who get you. You forget how great it is to be yourself without worrying that it will be misunderstood or rejected. You don’t realize the value of huddling up in an apartment to watch your favorite shows with cheap wine and snacks on deck.
And although life goes on, it doesn’t take away the longing for sporatic happy hour dates or last minute shopping with girlfriends. But the struggle to find like-minded women to connect with for social outings and girl time has taught me one important thing: the value of true sisterhood.
I’m so thankful for friends who always have my best interest at heart. These women motivate me, inspire me, and even come see me when I move to the middle of nowhere. I’m thankful for fights that made us closer and advice that made me wiser. Most of all, I’m so glad that love knows no distance. Regardless of how far life takes us. I know we will always find our way back together, if only for a weekend.
Lessons Learned about Friendships
Life has a way of teaching you practical lessons every step of the way. Mine?
- Going the extra mile to show my appreciation for those who’ve sincerely been there for me through a billion breakups, accomplishments, high hopes, let downs, frustrations, and promotions
- The importance of valuing 5 minute calls in between meetings or kid drop offs
- Finding time to share pictures and updates even when life gets hectic
- Understanding the difference between day ones and play ones
- Being ok with the fact that I aint for everybody
- Enhancing long distance love with genuine souls rather than being frustrated over new relationships I hoped to have
I’m not Drake so I can’t guarantee no new friends. But I’m finding peace in the treasure that is true friends.